Friday, June 24, 2011

~ Shoulda, Coulda, Woulda ~

You've probably seen this before but I think it's a good reminder and bears repeating!  FYI ~ I did NOT write this.

Too many people put off something that brings them joy just because they haven't thought about it, don't have it on their schedule, didn't know it was coming or are too rigid to depart from their routine. 
I got to thinking one day about all those people on the Titanic who passed up dessert at dinner that fateful night in an effort to cut back. From then on, I've tried to be a little more flexible.
How many women out there will eat at home because their husband didn't suggest going out to dinner until after something had been thawed? Does the word 'refrigeration' mean nothing to you?

How often have your kids dropped in to talk and sat in silence while you watched ' Jeopardy ' on television?
I cannot count the times I called my sister and said , 'How about going to lunch in a half hour?' She would gasp and stammer, 'I can't. I have clothes on the line. My hair is dirty. I wish I had known yesterday, I had a late breakfast, It looks like rain' And my personal favorite: 'It's Monday.' She died a few days ago. We never did have lunch together.


Because we cram so much into our lives, we tend to schedule our headaches. We live on a sparse diet of promises we make to ourselves when all the conditions are perfect! 

We'll go back and visit the grandparents when we get Steve toilet-trained. We'll entertain when we replace the living-room carpet. We'll go on a second honeymoon when we get two more kids out of college.
Life has a way of accelerating as we get older. The days get shorter, and the list of promises to ourselves gets longer. One morning, we awaken, and all we have to show for our lives is a litany of 'I'm going to,' 'I plan on,' and 'Someday, when things are settled down a bit.'

When anyone calls my 'seize the moment' friend, she is open to adventure and available for trips. She keeps an open mind on new ideas. Her enthusiasm for life is contagious. You talk with her for five minutes, and you're ready to trade your bad feet for a pair of Rollerblades and skip an elevator for a bungee cord.

My lips have not touched ice cream in 10 years. I love ice cream. It's just that I might as well apply it directly to my stomach with a spatula and eliminate the digestive process. The other day, I stopped the car and bought a triple-decker. If my car had hit an iceberg on the way home, I would have died happy.


Now....go on and have a nice day. Do something you WANT to...not something on your SHOULD DO list. If you were going to die soon and had only one phone call you could make, who would you call and what would you say? And why are you waiting? I had a friend from high school that I was always going to call and never did. The other day her name was in the obituaries so we never had that chat.


Have you ever watched kids playing on a merry go round or listened to the rain lapping on the ground? Ever followed a butterfly's erratic flight or gazed at the sun into the fading night? Do you run through each day on the fly? When you ask, 'How are you?' Do you hear the reply?
When the day is done, do you lie in your bed with the next hundred chores running through your head? Ever told your child, 'We'll do it tomorrow.' and in your haste, not see his sorrow? Ever lost touch? Let a good friendship die? Just call to say 'Hi'?
When you worry and hurry through your day, it is like an unopened gift....Thrown away.... Life is not a race. Take it slower. Hear the music before the song is over.

‘Life may not be the party we hoped for... but while we are here we might as well dance!’


And.....I hope you dance!


  1. Pat , I am SO sorry about the loss of your sister!!!!
    This was a post that has so much wisdom. You are so right!
    I am sending you a BIG hug.

  2. what an inspiration you are,, so sorry for your loss.This post will stand out for me for a very long time..Just beautiful, thankyou for this,

  3. I am so sorry for the loss of your sister. Your words ring true in so many people's lives. Thank you for the reminder to dance. Big hugs and again I am so sorry for your loss.

  4. Hello Pat...

    Dear friend, I am so sorry about the loss of your condolances!

    Oh boy, when I was younger, I often missed out on the "blessing of today"...but as I have grown older...I am much more keen as to just how short life really is! I really do appreciate this sweet gift that that Lord gives to me each day and try to make the most of it! I really do appreciate your sweet message, my dear friend...I totally agree! I think I will make a few calls today...thank you!!!

    Sending love and prayers your way, sweet friend!

    Love ya,

  5. Oh my gosh Pat, I am so sorry. I do believe your words are so very true. I suppose sometimes I try to do too much in a day, as we never do know. XO

  6. Pat... let me extend my sincerest sympathy to you and your family at the loss of your sister...

    and then let me say... this is quite possibly the best post I've read in years...

    Now... I have to go and call my sister...

    hugs and blessings... Dixie

  7. I see this now Pat, sorry I was confused.

  8. Pat-This is one of the best posts I have ever read! You said it all!!! Do it NOW- Amen! xo Diana

  9. What an awesome post. I'm just finishing a week with my mom and 2 sisters. I almost didn't come because my husband had surgery during the last month. He insisted that I go and our grandkids have had slumber parties with grandpa every night and we have both had a memorable week. You're so right, we just need to live our lives to the fullest. Thanks so much!

  10. Great post Pat! And so true! I really try to live my life similar to the thoughts here. It reall hit me about 5 years ago when my hssband was hurt in an accident. Life is too short and things can change dramatically in a heartbeat!

  11. Wow! What a great post! Life is so short and we really need to enjoy it as much as we can. My life is pretty busy and I really struggle with this some times. Thanks for reminding us to stop and smell the roses! :)

    And thanks for stopping by my blog today! I'm your newest follower!

  12. Thank you for your post--it is so true for so many of us. We do need to learn to "dance." So sorry for the loss of your and your family are in my prayers.

  13. Thanks for sharing this with us, Pat. Really makes you stop and think, doesn't it? Our days really are filled with too much "stuff". Thanks for the reminder to slow things down and cherish those people who are the treasures in our lives.

  14. Amen!! Life is just flying by all of the time...and it seems to be picking up speed. (makes me sad)

  15. You have just made my day !!!!
    Love your blog and outlook on life!

    Smiles Dottie

  16. Boy, what a great reminder. This was a timely and beautiful post. I am so sorry for the loss of your sister. I have wanted to reconnect with people who I've lost touch with, but I just never seem to do it. Maybe this post will serve as the kick in the pants that I need.


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