Sunday, November 17, 2013

~ 18 Things Everyone Should Start Making Time For Again ~

I found this very interesting and valuable. Seems everyone is in a frenzy re: decorating, planning Thanksgiving meals, putting up Christmas decorations and running oneself ragged. I'm not in the mood for any of that although I'm trying to get in the spirit. I am trying to do some things that make a difference...at least for me. I've been sending out "kindness" cards almost daily ~ just to let someone know that I think about them, they matter in my life and they are loved. #1 on this list covers that. :)

1. Writing things by hand. Letters to friends, lists for the store, goals for the week, notes for lovers, thank you cards and memos to coworkers. Digital communication is easy and convenient but ask anybody: there’s a huge difference between texting someone to say that you love them and hope they have a great day and writing it on a note and leaving it next to their bed.
2. Savoring time to do nothing. Taking a cue from pre-industrialized society and cultures that enjoy siestas and long, drawn-out, sit-down teas that serve no other purpose than to spend time enjoying the time you have.
3. Thinking before responding. We’ve become too conditioned to require things immediately. Someone asks a question, and we have to respond that second. Such was not the case before instant messaging and comment threads. A sign of true intelligence and confidence, I think, is someone who takes time to consider the question at hand in a little more depth, and then offers a response.
4. Cooking a nice meal just for the sake of doing so. It really trains you to defy your need for instant gratification and of course puts you in touch with something that’s very human and can be lovely if done right.
5. Getting really dressed up for no other reason than just wanting to.
6. Books. Actual hard copy books that you can scribble notes in and mark off sections of and smell ink through and hear the sound of turning pages and bending spines while you read.
7. Making phone calls to relatives for no other reason than to just say hi, and to ask how they’re doing.
8. Disconnecting from technology frequently enough that we won’t be anxious and feeling like we’re missing something when we try to do so for an extended period of time.
9. Celebrating things with long, multiple course dinners that we hold for people as opposed to just drinking ourselves into an oblivion and being belligerent (that has it’s time and place, of course, but having thoughtful, celebratory dinners is a dying art).
10. Cleaning because it's satisfying and doing things like painting walls or getting fresh flowers just because it's therapeutic.
11. Spending time with kids, and doing kid things with them. They just know what’s up.
12. Answering things in a timely fashion, not putting off invitations and requests just because we can.
13. Making sure relationships are actually based on time spent with one another. People seem to be sustaining them through only digital means with increasing frequency and I can understand how that’s important if it’s temporarily long distance but in general, physically being with people is the only thing that will give you that sense of human connectedness.
14. Just sitting and listening to music. We’ve made music background noise in our everyday lives, but now and again we should just sit and enjoy it like people used to.
15. Traveling by train, or if that’s not possible, at least exploring places that you pass everyday. Especially if you live in a big city, there are always little hidden gems around that you won’t believe you lived without seeing while they were a block away from you all along.
16. Putting personal health and well-being first, as it often falls to the wayside in importance. This means, aside from the obvious, taking those personal days and using them to just relax. We’ve made such a quirky commodity out of enjoying napping and relaxing, as though doing so makes us boring and old. It doesn’t, it’s healthy.
17. Planning something, especially with someone else, as simple as dinner or as grandiose as a long vacation next year. You always need something to look forward to.
18. Stopping to talk to people throughout the day. Connecting with them genuinely, as such interaction is really important but is becoming increasingly less common. Turning our phones off when out to dinner (who even turns them off anymore?) and learning to not spend all of our time documenting whatever we’re doing for social media. It often takes away from the experience itself.
You might like to explore the author's book ~ it's available on Amazon.

xo,  Pat

10 comments:

  1. I like this post! Do you know that I was trying to write a note to someone the other day and I could hardly do it! I was like my hand wouldn't cooperate. That's so bad. I'm definitely going to work on this. So many of the ideas on this list are worth really thinking about and acting on. :)

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  2. I am so happy you posted this. It is such a good reminder.
    I love to send cards. But I am sad to see that it seems to be something people do less of.

    Great Post...I am going to work on it. :-)

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  3. oh Pat. This post is so you. Thank you my friend for reminding us of what's important. Slowing down and spreading kindness in the smallest ways is what matters in the end. I'm aware that this Christmas might be a tough one for you and I'm praying for strength and healing for you and your family.
    xo
    Leslie

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  4. GREAT post, Pat. I like the "thinking before responding" one...I need to do that more often. xo Diana

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  5. Such great advice! I am going to get this book:) Have a blessed day dear friend, HUGS!

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  6. I loved reading through all the suggestions, Pat. What great advice you've shared with us. I hope all is well with you. xo

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  7. Hi, Pat! This is so very true. And what a perfect time to be reminded of these treasures.

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  8. This is such a great reminder to not get so caught up in the 'frenzy' of the holidays! Thanks for sharing :)
    Susan

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  9. So many of the things listed seem lost forever...I agree that we should try to get them back.!!
    Hugs and hope your Thanksgiving is blessed.
    xo bj

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  10. Thank you so very much for this list, Pat. It has inspired me to create my own for 2014. xxx ~Danielle

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