35 things I want my daughter to know about Girlfriends:
(a collection from a few of my trusted gals)
True girlfriends are those who will tell you the good and the bad. And find a way to make you feel OK about both.
Your best friend may have other friends too. That’s ok.
A girlfriend understands that we all want to feel celebrated on our birthdays.
Girlfriends come in all colors, shapes, and energy levels. Don’t have a type. You will miss out.
We are all imperfect people. Your friends will disappoint you. Forgive them even before they ask.
True girlfriends are those who meet you in the middle, and sit with you if the moment calls for sitting, and walk with you when you can move forward again.
Be brave enough to be real. Your Authentic self is enough.
You know she’s a true girlfriend when you don’t clean up before she comes over… you’re comfortable allowing her to see YOU, mess and all.
A lack of phone contact should not breed insecurity, just an excitement for when you finally do connect. Pick up where you left off, no guilt or hesitation. Life is hard and we all know it. Grace should be freely given.
Life gets busy though. Be intentional.
Love them well. That will look different for each friend.
Truly good friends are your best cheerleaders– they make you feel like everything you want is possible.
If you find a friend that can make you laugh so hard you pee….don’t let her go.
There are no gasps or judgement when your child has a meltdown in front of her. Just a chuckle and a story about when her own child slapped her mother-in-law in the face.
Always reach out to the new girl in school or life. Always.
A phone date together with a glass of wine and sleeping children can be as fulfilling as a dinner out.
True girlfriends are those who take and give in equal measure – but always remember to measure over the length of a yard and not over the length of an inch.
There’s a fine line between sharing information and gossiping. Don’t cross it and ask your friends to do the same.
You can make a friend feel loved by loving on her children.
It is a blessing to have an intimate few but always have room at your table. Be the anti-clique clique.
Don’t be a high maintenance friend, life’s hard enough. Just love well and often.
Laugh and cry together, often at the same time.
Don’t flirt with her boyfriend, spouse or love interest.
Remember your life and family are not supposed to look like hers. You were created differently. Don’t compare.
Friends should never feel like an obligation.
Girlfriends know when to simply say “you will get through this, I promise.”
When you know you are crazy, your girlfriend can assure you, you are normal, even though you are crazy.
A girlfriend understands your hormones, at all the different stages of womanhood.
Be Trustworthy ”A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy person keeps a secret.” (Proverbs 11).
True girlfriends always know how to point out the best in each other.
Apologize when you screw up, because you will.
Don’t just say you’re going to pray for her, actually pray, even when she doesn’t ask.
Know the purity of her heart. It’ll make it easier to give her the benefit of doubt.
Give of yourself expecting nothing in return. A true friend will reciprocate when she is able.
You have been placed in each others lives with great purpose. Cherish each other.
Work like you don't need the money, Sing like no one can hear you, Live like it's Heaven on earth, Love like you've never been hurt and Dance like no one's watching!
"The privilege of a lifetime is being who you are." ~ Joseph Campbell
"I still find each day too short for all the thoughts I want to think, all the walks I want to take, all the books I want to read, and all the friends I want to make."~ John Burroughs
"Can you see the holiness in those things you take for granted ~ a paved road or a washing machine? If you concentrate on finding what is good in every situation, you will discover that your life will suddenly be filled with gratitude, a feeling that nurtures the soul." ~ Harold Kushner
"May the Lord bless you and keep you and...give you peace."
"For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."