I found this article and it spoke to me. I remember the days when my kids were young and through the teen years too. I was working, going to college at night, keeping up with their activities, cooking a balanced meal each night and entertaining at the drop of a hat ~ whew! I've always been a perfectionist and trying to do it all left no time for me and little time to sleep. Just wanted to share this as a reminder for all those that have little ones, teens, parents to care for, etc. Be really good to yourself ~ schedule "you" on the calendar! Take the time to have a mani/pedi, meet a friend for coffee or a drink, have a massage or reflexology, go for acupuncture, have your hair done and take yourself to a movie or lunch. You need this! You deserve it!
Running your life and your household is a bit like running a business for which some things can easily be delegated.
Sometimes we have so many varying responsibilities in our lives, ranging from work obligations to caring for children to running a household, we feel we cannot possibly make it all work. We may feel overwhelmed in the face of it all, ending each day feeling hopelessly behind schedule. However, regardless of how frustrating this can be, these are the parameters that make up our lives, and we owe it to ourselves to find a way to make it work. Rather than buckling under the pressure of an impossible to-do list, we might take a moment to view the larger perspective.
Like the president of a large organization, we must first realize that we cannot do every job ourselves. The first step to sanity is learning how to delegate some of the responsibility to other people, whether by paying someone to clean our house or trading childcare duties with another parent. In addition, we might find places where we can shift our expectations in ways that make our lives easier. For example, expecting ourselves to create a healthy home-cooked meal every night after a full day of work, errands, or caring for an infant or toddler may be a bit excessive. We might allow ourselves to order in food once in a while without any guilt. Accepting the adjustments needed to make our lives work is an essential ingredient to being at peace with our situation.
At the end of the day, we must come to terms with changing what we can and accepting what we cannot change. Sometimes the laundry piles up, a sick child demands more of our attention than usual, and we temporarily get behind with our schedule. Accepting this momentary state of affairs and trusting in our ability to get back on track when the time is right, we gracefully accept our life as it is, letting go of perfectionism and embracing life as it stands.
Work like you don't need the money, Sing like no one can hear you, Live like it's Heaven on earth, Love like you've never been hurt and Dance like no one's watching!
"The privilege of a lifetime is being who you are." ~ Joseph Campbell
"I still find each day too short for all the thoughts I want to think, all the walks I want to take, all the books I want to read, and all the friends I want to make."~ John Burroughs
"Can you see the holiness in those things you take for granted ~ a paved road or a washing machine? If you concentrate on finding what is good in every situation, you will discover that your life will suddenly be filled with gratitude, a feeling that nurtures the soul." ~ Harold Kushner
"May the Lord bless you and keep you and...give you peace."
"For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."