Sunday, September 13, 2015

~ Living Your Life ~

This is a bit different than the usual "Silent Sunday" posts. A sweet friend that I used to work with passed away suddenly Friday evening. She and her family moved to Washington state several years ago so we kept up with each other and other friends on Facebook. Dayna had major surgery a few weeks ago and had been resting at home. She decided she had to return to work last week...much too soon!...and after the 2nd day she couldn't make it, too weak. I don't know the cause of death at this point, I'm still just stunned!  She adored her husband,  13 yr old daughter, the dogs and people. She did live her life full on which is wonderful!

I am reminded that we all need to "live like we're dying" (Tim McGraw) and not spend time "doing".  "Being" is so much more important! I've always loved this essay by Erma Bombeck ~ so much truth in it. My mother was one to save all the good stuff ~ the special towels and sheets, candles, beautiful dishes and crystal, table linens and more. These were only for special guests!  I told her she was special and should be using everything every day. :)

If I ever have that little twinge of her voice about "saving this or that" I eliminate it immediately!  IF I don't burn the wonderful candles or use the special linens, then someone else could tomorrow if I'm gone. I love drinking oj, water and anything else out of crystal! :)  So please slow down, relax about all the projects, spend precious time with your children, family and friends. Love stronger, live passionately and, by all means, hug often!

Erma Bombeck

If I had my life to live over...

Someone asked me the other day if I had my life to live over would I change anything.

My answer was no, but then I thought about it and changed my mind.

If I had my life to live over again I would have waxed less and listened more.

Instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy and complaining about the shadow over my feet, I'd have cherished every minute of it and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was to be my only chance in life to assist God in a miracle.

I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because my hair had just been teased and sprayed.

I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained and the sofa faded.

I would have eaten popcorn in the "good" living room and worried less about the dirt when you lit the fireplace.

I would have taken the time to listen to my grandfather ramble about his youth.

I would have burnt the pink candle that was sculptured like a rose before it melted while being stored.

I would have sat cross-legged on the lawn with my children and never worried about grass stains.

I would have cried and laughed less while watching television ... and more while watching real life.

I would have shared more of the responsibility carried by my husband which I took for granted.

I would have eaten less cottage cheese and more ice cream.

I would have gone to bed when I was sick, instead of pretending the Earth would go into a holding pattern if I weren't there for a day.

I would never have bought ANYTHING just because it was practical/wouldn't show soil/ guaranteed to last a lifetime.

When my child kissed me impetuously, I would never have said, "Later. Now, go get washed up for dinner."

There would have been more I love yous ... more I'm sorrys ... more I'm listenings ... but mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every minute of it ... look at it and really see it ... try it on ... live it ... exhaust it ... and never give that minute back until there was nothing left of it.”


  1. This has always been one of my favorites by Erma.....
    my mother also saved everything. I'd ask, "saving for what, Mother ?" and she'd say, "well, I don't know...just want to save them and keep them nice"....I don't know how many things I ended up throwing away because they were old and coming apart...being Saved. Bless her heart.
    I use every single thing in my house...and anything I think ought to be SAVED, I give to children or grands.'

  2. Pat, I'm sorry about your loss. The Erma poem is a favorite of mine too and such a wonderful reminder.

  3. I'm so sorry about your friend. Sending prayers to you and also to her family. What a wonderful reminder to live in the moment.

  4. Oh so sad for you. A little girl is left without a mommy. OMgoodness. Prayers for you all. I love the poem. It's late and I'm gonna go back and read it again tomorrow when I can ponder it.

  5. I'm so sorry for your's sad and it also makes us think. I've read this essay by Erma and have always loved it--it was great to read it again.

    Love to you, Pat.

    Jane x

  6. Beautifully said! I am so sorry about your friend and will pray for this family! Great words from Erma and great to read over and over! Have a blessed day dear Pat, HUGS!

  7. So very sad. One never knows when their time is up. I agree with this post. Don't save the good stuff for someone or something special. Enjoy while you can. That essay by Erma is something I try to live by. xoxo

  8. I'm so sorry to hear about your friend, Pat, but thank you for keeping us focused on what's really important. We waste so much time on things that aren't! XO, Christy

  9. Hi Pat, so sorry for the loss of your friend. Life is very fragile and short. I agree with you completely. Don't save the goodies for another time. That time may not ever come. Enjoy treasures while you can. Love the verse too. Thanks for sharing.
    Hugs, cm

  10. I'm so very sorry about the loss of your friend, Pat. She seemed way too young to leave this life, but we know all about that, don't we?
    Thank you for the reminders from Erma. I think I'll go burn a candle right now....
    Hugs to you!

  11. Hi Pat, hope you are enjoying the overcast and a bit of the rain today. It is hot and muggy here but we are just now getting a little drizzle. Thanks for stopping by and your kind comment. Have a great weekend.
    Again, so sorry for the loss of your friend. Hugs, cm

  12. Love this post!! So true. That is how I am trying to live. I try to say "no" less and "why not?" more!

  13. Forgot to extend my sympathies for the loss of your dear friend. Such a shock and so sad to hear!

  14. So sorry about your very sad. I love this piece from Irma B. -- no matter how many times I've read it, it still resonates with me that sometimes I get quite a few things right, other times.....not so many. Always, always good to read and keep handy as a reminder!


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