Monday, November 7, 2016

~ An Attitude of Gratitude ~

One of my favorite books is "Simple Abundance" by Sarah Ban Breathnach.

She was on the Oprah Show quite often in the 90's and promoted keeping a Gratitude Journal. Beginning with just 3, 5 or 10 things each day, your list will soon be quite lengthy. I just bought a new journal and, in this season of giving thanks, I thought I'd mention it. This exercise literally saved my sanity back then! My job was extremely stressful, my mother was in critical health and "life" was happening. Some nights I just wrote  *I made it through today, I'm so grateful for my bed, I appreciate being safe.*  I promise your list will grow, you will begin to feel differently mentally, physically and emotionally. It can, and will, change your life for the better!

I'll be very honest, after losing Abby I just stopped journaling. I was so distraught that I couldn't see anything good about my life or the world around me. I railed at God for taking her and I was so depressed and angry for such a long time that I had no interest in anything. There are months that I have no memory of nor do I know what happened that I finally began to see a bit of light at the end of the tunnel. God's grace?  :) Sometime in the midst of returning to a "new normal" I stopped asking God "WHY?" and began to find things to be grateful for. I tried to appreciate the fact that we had her for almost 16 years and, in that short time, she brought so much joy to our lives and to everyone she came in contact with. 

A professional suggested that I write letters to her, remembering all the thousands of times she made us laugh, the funny things she said and did and all those "I love you, Mimi!"  Life is waayyyyy too short and everyone has tragedies to deal with. So try to make each day count, to make a positive difference in this world and appreciate every moment you have!

It's not anything fancy...I think it was $3 or $4 at Home Goods. It doesn't really matter what you choose to use, I just liked the flowers and always, black & gold!  :)

"Gratitude means thankfulness, counting your blessings, noticing simple pleasures, and acknowledging everything that you receive. It means learning to live your life as if everything were a miracle, and being aware on a continuous basis of how much you’ve been given. Gratitude shifts your focus from what your life lacks to the abundance that is already present. In addition, behavioral and psychological research has shown the surprising life improvements that can stem from the practice of gratitude. Giving thanks makes people happier and more resilient, it strengthens relationships, it improves health, and it reduces stress."
(I'm not sure who to credit for this...I've had it for a very long time.)

I hope that you find something here that will inspire you! Tomorrow is going to be a challenging day for our country. Do something that makes you happy and is relaxing. Perform RAOK's, make that call, write someone a note to let them know they are loved and give thanks for everything!


  1. I'm so sorry about your loss♥♥ But I am glad that you are choosing to make each day count and have attitude of gratitude. I love the idea of writing letters to her.

  2. Thank you for sharing your thoughts about Abby, Pat. A friend of mine told me to write in a journal every day. I used to write in one, but not every day. It's something that I have to get back to. I love your journal that simply says "write." This book 'Simple Abundance' sounds right up my alley. ;) You are such a grateful person, Pat.


  3. Good morning, Pat-
    I still have my book and also the journal where I love to go back and read the things I was grateful for on any given day. They were always small things, but truly the REAL things like when my son put his hands on my face and just smiled at me. Those are the moments that I never want to forget. You'll never forget those moments with Abby- they live forever in your heart. Finding your legs again after such a devastating loss is so hard and I know you felt that it was impossible for many months. You're getting there- step by step. I'm glad you are going to journal again. I'm proud of you for crawling back to life even when you didn't want to.
    xoxo, T.

  4. What a beautiful message, dear Pat, and Abby would be so proud of you for sharing this with us. Gratitude=Love!

  5. This post made me cry, Pat, as I thought of you and your journey back to some happiness. My heart aches for the girl you will never see married with children of her own...but I know that she is beyond all pain and suffering and happy beyond what we can even imagine. It is just the pain left behind for those of us that love so deeply.

    I used to write in that journal, too-and have no idea whatever happened to my old one. Hope you had a good day- xo Diana

  6. Hi Pat, what a beautiful post that brought me to tears. Thank you for sharing your heart. Abby is very proud of you. I love your journal and so glad you are able to write in it once again. I used to keep a journal too, but the last few years I've gotten so busy I can't keep it up. I really should try once again. Thank you for the inspiration.
    Blessings for a great weekend ahead. xo

  7. Oh sweet Pat, I agree with Kitty and that Abby would be so proud of you! This post brought tears to my eyes, dear one. Thinking of you and sending LOTS of LOVE your way!


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